Birthday Cake , our 8 year old selves, and connection.

Madeleine L’Engle: “The great thing about getting older is you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.”

This was a quote I spent considerable time with last year. Many of us have very specific, even visceral memories of last March. For me, reading through many of Madeline L’ Engle’s nonfiction books.

And this quote stopped me in my tracks.

We add. We don’t subtract.

Just because I’m 34, doesn’t mean I have stopped being 8.

I am her, I am more, and I am still becoming.

And so are you.

And , to this point, we do well when we remember to take time to re- Engage with those parts of ourselves .

My daughter recently turned 8, she is reading Mr. Poppers Penguins, as I did for the first time at her age. And this has been a glorious point of connection. I didn’t plan it, I didn’t even suggest it, it’s just one of those serendipitous things that happens sometimes. But the amount of joy we have received by talking over the book has been unmeasurable.

Is there something simple in your life that you could share with a child or young person? Some connection that you could make, a simple bonding activity? It doesn’t have to be elaborate. The older I get , the more I realize connection happens best when we are in our most natural, unforced state.

We don’t have to wrestle and plan and force connection.

We can take pleasure in simple activities.

We can take the time to look into our children’s eyes, and Lauren to their thoughts on a book.

We can empathize and sympathize because we are still that age- we haven’t lost that part of ourselves, we’ve simply carried it forward into adulthood.

It’s all good, and it all matters.

You haven’t lost your childhood self. You can still access those things that made you feel alive and green, right now, this very day.

Go have some fun and make some connections!

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